we got into a fight
downtown
at midnight
she said "a real man would have said something"
i looked at her and shrugged my shoulders
"but you didnt say a word"
i had no idea what she meant
and i asked her
but she kept stomping
until we were home
where she broke the silence
"he looked at my boobs, asshole"
"wait what" i said
it turned out
while i was talking to him
he scanned her body
and she felt uncomfortable
even harassed
"he is a good man" i said
and i had no idea he was doing that
.
.
who is at fault
him
her
me
its a tricky question
* can you blame a man who looked at a woman?
* can you blame a woman who felt harassed by a look?
* can you blame me for not having noticed it in the moment?
in all 3 positions there is ignorance
ignorance not in the way we often use the word
where we accuse someone of being "ignorant"
but ignorance from latin ignorare (not knowing)
when a person doesnt know any better
* was his look at her malicious?
* was her expressing harassment valid or a way to harm him (putting him in a bad light)?
* and was me not even noticing what was going on an intentional decision?
i cant speak for others
i can only speak for myself
but i trust her word
as much as i trust my perception of the situation
and i will say that me being in a conversation
i focus on my conversation partner
in this case it was him
thats where my attention was
so it is possible i didnt notice his potential misdeed...
.
.
was our behavior intentional?
did we did intend to harm?
all i can say is
my conscience is pure
and i didnt do anything wrong intentionally
thats what matters the most
oh, one last thing before you go...
i looked in the mirror
and couldnt stop
the man behind me
did a moon-walk
i wanted to catch him
grabbed his cojones
by accident to be honest
but he was rather amused
and happy as can be
michael jackson
queen of "aaow!"
rest peaceful indeed
¡Ándale, arriba!
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